Fw: Thought you would enjoy this. Love Clara

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Subject: Fw: Thought you would enjoy this. Love Clara

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From: "maggie welsh" <maggiewelsh@unidial.com<
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Sent: Thursday, May 03, 2001 8:25 PM

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< < A time comes in your life when you finally get it...
< < When in the midst of all your fears and insanity
< < you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice
< < inside your head cries out - ENOUGH! Enough fighting
< < and crying or struggling to hold on. And, like a
< < child quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs
< < begin to subside, you shudder once or twice, you blink
< < back your tears and through a mantle of wet lashes you
< < begin to look at the world through new eyes. This is
< < your awakening. You realize that it's time to stop
< < hoping and waiting for something to change, or for
< < happiness, safety and security to come galloping over
< < the next horizon. You come to terms with the fact that
< < he is not Prince Charming and you are not Cinderella
< < and that in the real world there aren't always
< < fairy tale endings (or beginnings for that matter) and
< < that any guarantee of "happily ever after" must begin
< < with you, and in the process... a sense of
< < serenity is born of acceptance. You awaken to the fact
< < that you are not perfect, and that not everyone will
< < always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you
< < are... and that's OK.(They are entitled to their own
< < views and opinions.)
< < And you learn the importance of loving and championing
< < yourself, and in the process... a sense of newly found
< < confidence is born of self-approval. You stop bitching
< < and blaming other people for the things
< < they did to you (or didn't do for you) and you learn
< < that the only thing you can really count on is
< < the unexpected. You learn that people don't always
< < say what they mean or mean what they say, and that not
< < everyone will always be there for you, and that it's
< < not always about you. So, you learn to stand on your
< < own and to take care of yourself and in the process...
< < a sense of safety & security is born of self-reliance.
< < You stop judging and pointing fingers, and you begin
< < to accept people as they are, and to overlook their
< < shortcomings and human frailties and, in the
< < process... a sense of peace & contentment is born of
< < forgiveness.
< <
< < You realize that much of the way you view yourself,
< < and the world around you, is a result of all the
< < messages and opinions that have been ingrained into
< < your psyche. And you begin to sift through all the
< < crap you've been fed about how you should behave, how
< < you should look, how much you shouldn't weigh, what
< < you should wear, where you should shop, what you
< < should drive, how and where you should live, what
< < you should do for a living, who you should sleep with,
< < who you should marry, what you should expect of
< < a marriage, the importance of having and raising
< < children, or what you owe your parents. You learn to
< < open up to new worlds and different points of view. And
< < you begin reassessing and redefining who you are and
< < what you really stand for.
< < You learn the difference between wanting and needing,
< < and you begin to discard the doctrines and values
< < you've outgrown, or should never have bought into to
< < begin with, and in the process... you learn to respect
< < your instincts.
< < You learn that it is truly in giving that we receive.
< < And that there is power and glory in creating
< < and contributing, and you stop maneuvering
< < through life merely as a "consumer" looking for your
< < next fix. You learn that principles such as honesty
< < and integrity are not the outdated ideals of
< < a bygone era, but the mortar that holds together the
< < foundation upon which you must build a life. You learn
< < that you don't know everything, it's not
< < your job to save the world, and that you can't teach a
< < pig to sing. You learn to distinguish between guilt
< < and responsibility, and the importance of setting
< < boundaries and learning to say NO.
< < You learn that the only cross to bear is the one
< < you choose to carry, and that martyrs get
< < burned at the stake.
< < Then you learn about love; romantic love and familial
< < love.
< < You learn that you will not be more beautiful,
< < more intelligent, more lovable, or important because
< < of the man or woman on your arm or the child that
< < bears your name. You learn to look at relationships as
< < they really are and not as you would have them be. You
< < stop trying to control people, situations,
< < and outcomes. You learn that just as people grow and
< < change, so it is with love.... and you learn that love is a verb, it is
< < action.
< <
< < And you look in the mirror and come to terms with the
< < fact that you will never be a size 5 or a perfect 10
< < and you stop trying to compete with the image inside
< < your head and agonizing over how you "stack up."
< < You come to the realization that you deserve to be
< < treated with love, kindness, sensitivity, and
< < respect, and you will not settle for less. And you
< < allow only the hands of a lover who cherishes you, to
< < glorify you with his or her touch... and in the
< < process you internalize the meaning of self-respect.
< < And you learn that your body really is your temple.
< <
< < You begin eating a balanced diet, drinking more
< < water, and taking more time to exercise. You learn
< < that fatigue diminishes the spirit and can create
< < doubt and fear, so you take more time to rest. And,
< < just as food fuels the body, laughter fuels the soul,
< < so you take more time to laugh and to play. You learn
< < that, for the most part, in life you get what you
< < believe you deserve... and that much of life
< < truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy. You learn that
< < anything worth achieving is worth working for, and
< < that wishing for something to happen is different
< < from working toward making it happen. More
< < importantly, you learn that in order to achieve
< < success, you need direction, discipline, and
< < perseverance. You also learn that no one can do
< < it all alone and that it's OK to risk asking for
< < help. You learn that the only thing you must truly fear
< < is the great robber baron of all time. FEAR
< < itself. You learn to step right into and through your
< < fears, because you know that whatever happens you can
< < handle it, and to give in to fear is to
< < give away the right to live life on your terms.
< < And you learn to fight for your life and not to
< < squander it living under a cloud of impending doom.
< < You learn that life isn't always fair, you don't
< < always get what you think you deserve, and that
< < sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting, good
< < people. On these occasions you learn not to
< < personalize things. You learn that God isn't punishing
< < you or failing to answer your prayers. It's just life
< < happening. And you learn to deal with evil in its most
< < primal state - the ego.
< < You learn that feelings such as anger, envy, and
< < resentment must be understood and redirected, or they
< < will suffocate the life out of you and poison the
< < universe that surrounds you. You learn to admit when
< < you are wrong and to build bridges instead of
< < walls. You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in
< < many of the simple things we take for granted, things
< < that millions of people upon the earth can only dream
< < about; a full refrigerator, clean running water, a
< < soft warm bed, a long hot shower.
< < Slowly, you begin to take responsibility for
< < yourself... by yourself, and you try to make yourself
< < a promise --to never betray yourself . And
< < you hang a wind chime outside your window so you can
< < listen to the wind. And you make it a point
< < to keep smiling, to keep trusting, and to stay open to
< < every wonderful possibility. Finally, with courage in
< < your heart and with God by your side,
< < you take a stand, you take a deep breath, and you
< < begin to design the life you want to live as best as
< < you can.
<
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< < Fly, fly do not fear
< < Don't waste a breath, don't shed a tear
< < Your heart is pure, your soul is free
< < Be on your way, don't wait for me
< < Above the universe you'll climb
< < On beyond the hands of time
< < The moon will rise, the sun will set
< < But I won't forget
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